Well, as someone who has an interest in sociology, gender, and kink, I suppose I had to write about this at some point or another…..
Back in the day, in my early ‘teens–I flipped through the pages of a Barely Legal porno mag and thought, “Hawt, damn, college women are soooo sophisticated.” Now, many women that might be called MILFS are of the general age range to be my peers. Guess I haven’t “matured” enough to be a Cougar’s peer….
A few years back, I was hanging out with a hard drinking metal girl. She boasted that she loved porno, especially stuff with inter racial couples. She then offered to show me her collection, to which I declined. I’m sure a PUA would tell me that a girl offering to show her porn collection is an invitation that she would like you to escalate, however my gut instincts told me this is someone I shouldn’t get involved with….
The last time I was in an adult bookstore was a huge superstore called Hustler Hollywood. It looks more like a Borders bookstore than a hole in the wall porno shop. It’s well lit. Friendly staff greet you and ask if you have any questions. There are gag gifts and funny tee shirts like you might find in Spencer’s. Most interesting of all, it’s not the raincoat crowd. There were couples, groups of girls, groups of guys and assorted single people. Some were laughing. Some unashamedly walked with DVD’s, toys or magazines under their arm. Except for the fact that everyone was over 18, you could’ve been at your local mall.
Seems to me porno is becoming more and more mainstream, almost respectable…
Well, you can always find a critique against it. I read one by Roger Jensen a little while back. He mentioned how it was just a tradition of men selling women’s bodies as a commodity. Well, one thing that always strikes me as a little dishonest in these conversations is how someone will say how you are “buying women.” Do you buy a gardener if you pay him to work on your lawn? You purchase a service. If you buy pornography, are you perhaps buying a performance similar to if you buy a DVD of your favorite band? Also, when people talk about objectification, how come it only seems to refer to the actresses? How come they never say, “Oh, poor man, he is being reduced to nothing more than a throbbing, hard penis that spews copius amounts of ejaculate?” Doesn’t this critique leave out gays and transsexuals. Granted, that is a world I haven’t explored and don’t care too, but… …the point I’m trying to get at is that we don’t seem to be having honest conversations about gender or sexuality.
Thaddeus Blanchette just left a link on my blog to an article of his. It is in reaction to an article called Can You Trust Your Johnson? at The Good Men Project. Anyways, since dopamine and “brain circuits” get mentioned, I can’t but help think of video games. I like video games, but am not addicted. Anyhow, I don’t know where I fit into this picture as my greatest exposure to the naked female form is at my local clothing optional beach 😉