“It’s a real shame to see that a steady campaign of misogynist blather from so-called “men’s rights activists” in the comments at Good Men Project has poisoned founder Tom Matlack’s mind. Personally, I’m a big fan of just banning MRAs. They have nothing of value to add to a conversation, and exist online solely to disrupt any conversation they fear might lead others towards reaching the conclusion that women are people….”
Well, maybe when she talks about the fact that men live shorter lives on average, that there is less funding for prostate cancer, it is only males that are required to sign up for Selective Service-then she might get some sympathy from me. However, it just seems like a tactic to shut out voices you’d rather not hear. Oh, anyone complaining about men’s (statistically provable) problems is “mansplainin’,”an MRA, an uneducated backwoods misogynist. Sorry, I’ve read a bunch of her stuff and at this point, I don’t think she is arguing in good faith. Ironic how those looking to uncritically push an ideology seem to love censorship…. Now, we could get into a huge argument whether men or women have it worse. I’m not willing to do that, mostly because I don’t think it will be productive. But I will say that when you are at The Good Men Project, a site that purports to be about men, I don’t think you should be silencing living breathing men and telling them they aren’t allowed to have problems due to “privilege” or some other sort of argument.
Now here is another one I find problematic.
“…In addition, women who find themselves in heterosexual relationships where they have more sexual desire than their partners, whether temporarily or just in general, often take being rejected for sex or being put upon to initiate it most of the time very hard on their self-esteem. If you believe that “men want it more”, that he doesn’t want it as often as you gets interpreted as “I’m boring” or “I’m unattractive”. Because there’s very little cultural room to talk about this problem, women in this situation have very little chance at getting relief or setting themselves straight.”
Sex addiction and avoiding gender essentialism
Now, the thing that is a bit ironic is how she will call shy, insecure men unable to even get in relationships “megadouches.” and, one has to wonder if fans of the band MegaDeth can also be referred to as MegaDouche’s. 😉
Her response to Miguel Blomfontosis’s article went something like this…
“Shyness doesn’t make you nice. It just makes you Nice®. I have known many people who are shy assholes, who both hate other people and retreat from them, which actually makes a lot of sense.”
….and that was about the nicest thing she said in the entire article….
Now she had another article about Christopher Hitchens…
“I wish that he and the men who are like him that are still around could apply the same rigorous thinking to their own prejudices. Ours would be a better world for it. That is all. ”
Well, I’d like to turn that one around to her and her “allies” like Hugo Schwyzer.