Mr. Manboobs bigotry never ceases to amaze me….
He has a terrible article attempting to shame men who use sex toys. Well, sex toys aren’t my thing, so it should seem I wouldn’t care one way or the other–but I think it subtly reveals his biases. Interestingly enough, his “buddy” Hugo Schwyzer wrote an article saying men should be able to use Sex Toys. From the article:
“Volokh suggests that the number one reason has to do with the myth that “real men have sex with real vaginas.” In other words, as he puts it, male masturbation—and especially a “penis sleeve” (what is sometimes pejoratively referred to as a “pocket p**sy”) signals a “lack of sexual success.” Male masturbation, in other words, is about relieving frustration—and for too many people, frustration is a consequence of failure. A sexually successful man should have enough sex (with women, of course, as our myths tend to exclude gay and bi men) that he only rarely gets “frustrated.”
I’ve also seen a few posts at Jezzabel where women proudly talk about vibrators and dildo’s.
Well, I suppose there are different forms of Feminism and some would be of the so-called “sex positive” branch. Maybe Fatrelle isn’t of that branch. Or, maybe he is only sex positive when it comes to women. You don’t hear him making fun of the ladies at Jezzabel for their vibrators. Yeah, I know masturbation is a topic ready made for jokes, I had to resist’s the urge to title this “A Sticky Subject, Mr.Manbobz’s Pocket Pussy, meow, meow…”
I’d give a more benevolent individual the benefit of the doubt. I could see a humored article by someone not looking to disrespect people. But not here. He will intentionally twist people’s words and then put a flashing sarcasm button at the bottom of his page for “plausible deniability.” his minions aren’t beneath saying downright lies in the comments section no matter how viscous they may be. No, he doesn’t get my confidence.
No, I think something else is going on here. I can’t prove this with the rigor a scientist will prove a theory, but I will present my thoughts. You should do the reading and make up your own mind. I believe that he knows what he is doing. He isn’t critiquing the women with vibrators. They are seen as empowered–Exploring their bodies and enjoying themselves. Look, I’ve got no problem with what these ladies are doing behind closed doors. I believe their right to bring themselves to orgasm either with fingers or toys is as inalienable as my right to use mind altering substances. (I think, therefore I am. If I can’t own my own mind and consciousness, how can I own something like property. If I own my own consciousness, it is mine to alter. If I don’t own my consciousness, then any other argument for freedom or ownership of anything is moot.)
Anyways, back to Mr. Manboobz. Why would he want to shame men using sex toys. Why would he hate Men Going Their Own Way? Perhaps he only sees value in men as to what they can do for women. Perhaps he is relying on an old trope that a “Real Man” should go out and get sex and if he can’t do that, then he should just quit whining and work harder at his job (but not too hard, cause doncha know, he’s gotta complain about that wage gap thing and damnit all if a guy actually earned all his money.) So, if he really was for gender equality, he’d have a similar attitude toward women and men who use sex toys. How can one look at one gender and say “You go girl” and then look at the other as if they are pathetic. Well, maybe if he is really just misandrist, he will hide it behind sarcasm and hope the rest of us don’t figure out his double standard. Perhaps he fears men might replace women with toys. Why doesn’t he fear that women might replace men with toys. Oh, that’s right, they’re empowered… Does that bring us back to the “disposable sex”?