Well, before reading in the gendersphere, I often would hear motivational phrases like “Attitude Is Everything.” Of course attitude only gets you so far, you’ve gotta know what your doing. A good attitude might be helpful on an entry level job but I don’t know that’ll make you a better brain surgeon. That is to say there is a point where “fake it to make it” won’t work–either you can get sh*t done or ya can’t. So one thing that keeps coming up is the idea that for example, women are in less powerful or high earning positions because of sexism. And, I suppose there could be some truth to that. However, there seems to be a bastardized line of marxist thinking along the lines of an “oppressed class” versus an “oppressor class.”
It would be moronic for me to state that sexism, classism and racism don’t exist. They do, and they seem to cut in more directions than the mainstream narrative portrays. For example, if you simply state that women are the “oppressed class”-how come you see more men successfully committing suicide (that being one endeavor where “failure” is a more favorable outcome.) Now, I’ve seen allot of debates on topics like this. And I think of you are trying to see differences, be they cultural, social or inherent between genders, you might be able to extrapolate useful information. However, I believe simply looking at who has it worse and trying to gain “victim cred” is a futile pursuit. From my point of view, the question should be how to reduce suicide. I guess what I’m trying to state is the the questions should be framed to finding solutions rather than staying stuck on problems and becoming more depressed and bitter.
Now, I am slowly pulling myself away from the misery that is the gendersphere, but every so often I stumble onto a little nugget of wisdom. I think I’ve used this analogy before, but I’ll use it again. Reading in the gendershphere is like searching for a nugget of gold in a sewer with festering open wounds. Now, this comment by Adi was one of those nuggets of gold:
“…Once you’ve been fed the idea that you’re part of an oppressed group, regardless of how true or false, you will always have that little voice in your head. Whenever you have a setback (and everyone aiming high has many of these), that voice comes out saying “see? I told you that you can’t make it because you’re oppressed.”
In other words, even if you’re part of an oppressed group, you’re still more likely to succeed if you act and think as if you aren’t oppressed…”
Of course it is beneficial to know areas in your life where you may be discriminated against, there is also a great case to be made for going for it. So, for example, I don’t trust the cops one bit. I’m extra cautious late at night, you won’t find me stumbling drunk from a bar at two in the morning. However, if I am out and about at that hour, I’ll be alert, aware and in tip top shape. So, maybe it’s better to look at your life more like a card player. You’ve got certain “opportunities” by the hand you’ve been dealt. After that, it’s on you to play that hand as good as you can. In the long run, I think the whole “derailing for dummies”/”privilege” crowd will hold you back from what you are truly capable of….