Here is what I see as the biggest problems of the current MRM…
1.) Not recognizing biological differences between men and women.
Men and women are different. This doesn’t mean that they should be paid differently for the same work or treated differently under the law. However playing the victim card the way feminist have done will not elicit sympathy but rather disgust. Men’s value (whether this is right or wrong is another issue) is measured in their strength and utility. Look at all the men who have gone through a divorce after a job loss. Connect the dots.
2.) Some men are more equal than others…
I’ve seen ideologue Paul Elam rip apart other men who disagree with him with insults towards their status. He’s done this to me personally and also to MGTOW Stardusk. He throws histrionics and refuses to engage in rational debate. This is not someone who should be a leader.
Furthermore, many so-called MRM sites have linked to White Nationalist sites and PUA sites. Do I even have to explain why this is wrong? In PUA dichotomies, some men are lesser than other men–the so-called hapless, incel, Nice Guy ™ Beta’s. Also, how is this Men’s Rights when you’ve got a bunch of weirdo’s pushing off a psuedo science like HBD? How is this Men’s Right’s when those with darker skin aren’t even seen as fully human. Specific examples of this can be found when a so-called MRA like Bernard Chapin promotes Heartiste or AVfM links to a place like Inmalafide. (Yes, I did unfortunately contribute articles to IMF.)
3.) Pushing political worldviews onto the readers.
This has shown itself with early MRM writers pushing a “right wing” libertarian bent. Some may say this was reactionary towards feminist’s left-leaning views. Ironically, now the AVfM crowd seems to be leaning towards Dean Esmay’s “classically liberal” and dare I say marxist worldviews that are strikingly similar to many feminist’s. Apparently there was a big blow out between Chapin and Esmay.
I do believe that it is ultimately impossible to keep politics and different worldviews out of the discussions. However, these arguments poison the well and scare off potential allies.
4.) Postulating “Critical Theory” to explain the complexities of Real Life.
I’ve read theories put forth by Typhon Blue and Girl Writes What. They were interesting reads, however… Just as “patriarchy theory” often creates a closed mindedness in feminists when discussing gender issues, adherence to these theories can also create blindspots. This is similar to the simpleminded dichotomy of “red pill”/”blue pill.” Leave the simplemindedness behind. Reality is a whole other experience.
Now I know you may be reading this and thinking I’ve got allot of complaints but no solutions. And that is a valid observation…
More to the point, I believe if the MRM doesn’t proceed in the right direction it is better not to proceed at all.
As a mixed race man, I sure as fuck am not gonna be “on your side” if you keep on pedaling the “masculine, androphile wisdom” of Jack Don-0-van…
I’ve already gone down the mistaken path thinking the enemy of my enemy is my friend. I regrettably interacted at Inmalafide. That’s a mistake I won’t make again.
I can give a few simple answers that won’t work for all men or even many…
I believe that “opting out” is an incredibly effective strategy. What’s happens when the US Warmachine can’t find soldiers? Look at how the Japanese government is freaking out because of all the “grasseaters.” A young man should guard his utility in this day and age the way a young woman would’ve guarded her chastity in years past.
I believe that there are organizations that aren’t part of the online MRM that do work that benefits men. One is The Innocence Project. Perhaps better to look into these than get drawn into ideologues pointless arguments.
Perhaps that’s not enough. Feel free to leave comments…