Apparently this is the Dear Abbey for misandist, “empowered”, bigots…
“Help me out here: how and when do I stick my finger up a guy’s ass? A lot of men think that’s off-limits, so I’ve never ventured back there, but I want to massage someone’s prostate goddamnit! How can I make this work?
If you want this to work you’re going to have to be very delicate, and take things slowly. No one wants a dry finger shoved up their butt at random. In my experience, guys are generally more open to new concepts, and trying out new things, when you have their dick in your mouth. (This is because fellatio slows their brain down to a point of temporary retardation, which means their guard is down.) This is why mid-BJ is a great time to bring up things like, “Are we official?” or “Can I please borrow your car and $700?”
So, while you’re sucking, start playing with his balls and then slowly move moving your fingers back in the desired direction. Be conscious of how he’s responding to your touch. If he flinches as soon as you start poking around in that area, that’s not a good sign, but don’t give up hope just yet. Wait a minute or so, then do something fancy with your tongue to distract him and try again, rubbing lightly around the outside of the hole, as not to scare it. It might take a while to “feel out” (lol) if he’s going to be down for butt stuff, but even if your first attempt is a total failure, that doesn’t necessarily mean it’s never going to happen. Maybe it just wasn’t the right time, ya know? (To be honest, even if you’re someone who’s generally into anal, sometimes you just don’t want someone back there, like if you have to go to the bathroom or if you’re hemorrhoid is acting up or whatever.) Basically, never give up and remember that with a little perseverance you can do anything you put your mind to, Susie! Just think: it took NASA a long time to figure out Mars, but they never gave up and then finally last month they achieved their goal of DJing a Will.I.Am song from space. #inspirational
Also, this is sort of a no-brainer, but make sure your nails are trimmed and that your fingers have some spit or lube on them when you finally go for it, because intra-anal lacerations are not not glamorous.”
Now, I won’t even discuss how Susie in CA comes across as “sexually entitled” or that if a man demanded a sexual act in a similar way he would be called, creepy, rapey or a subhuman Nice Guy ™ piece of shit.
I will say how Ms. Karley Sciortino never even suggests asking a potential partner about their feelings towards a sexual act. She does acknowledge that the receiving partner could be injured if it’s not handled properly. This is a little more than an excited lover getting a little handsy and their partner pushing their hands away. Sounds like something that should definitely be discussed beforehand. I personally find this act gross and wouldn’t allow it. That’s neither here nor there though. BD & SM isn’t something I know a ton about or have any kind of desire to explore. But from what I do know, people talk to their partners BEFOREHAND because there are acts that could be dangerous if not properly conducted. Why is this different? Oh, I get it, because it is a man on the receiving end. Feminism, not just a hate movement, but a place for hypocrites….