When Boys Attack-How to let the kind womyn inside you shine in times that may make you feel like anything but…

He may scream, punch, take advantage or just quietly manipulate you.

The stereotype may be used against you by being told to provide or take care of needs; making you feel guilty, ashamed and less of a woman—but please don’t feel this way.

It may have nothing to do with you or maybe you did do something to provoke; either way how do you handle the attack?

If the ‘attack’ on you is a once-off behavior there may be something deeper going on resulting in this. In this instance it might be best to leave the situation in the heat of the moment and try coming back at a calmer time to talk it out—this conversation can be started by simply asking how everything is going.

However, if an inappropriate behavior is continually received you have to handle it. We are adults and whilst we don’t always act our best, mature conversations when things are not quite right is the outcome we need to strive for, whether it is in the workplace, home or a social setting.

Manipulative or snide comment behavior needs to be confronted with a calm approach. Find an appropriate setting, maybe invite the other out for a coffee or the like, and simply bring up the behavior, how it isn’t acceptable and ask ‘how can ‘we’ work this out?’ This approach, whilst often difficult is one of the best deflators.
We are all influenced by those around us.

Unfortunately sometimes the other party isn’t willing to move towards a mature attitude. In that instance it is best to remove yourself from this association as much as possible when you have made reasonable attempts to work it out. If someone doesn’t have your best interest at heart than it isn’t healthy to continue to let her or him be an influence in your life, as we are all influenced by those around us.

And this is hard, walking away always is because there were good reasons you walked into it. But that is part of being a good woman, knowing when to walk away at a mature time, not letting it get to a point that grinds you down, as this is when regrettable behaviors come out.
Often bad behavior can gain momentum with others and you need to be able to hold strong to your mature approach even when it is not visible to others, especially then, keep strong.

Remain calm, take moments to keep you together and mentally prepare yourself for these hard talks. As even when the mud is slung, you need to be prepared to be the one to show compassions, care and maturity.

Often bad behavior can gain momentum with others and you need to be able to hold strong to your mature approach even when it is not visible to others, especially then, keep strong.

But in your humanness, if you do falter in this you need to acknowledge it. Apologies are in order no matter hard you may find them. You need to acknowledge when your behavior isn’t at its best, confirm you know this and are working on it, and try to explore the trigger so both parties can better understand and prevent this next time.

There is such strength in acknowledgment and acceptance, this paves the way for growth; it almost always ensures it.

Don’t starve the world of your growth and the kind woman inside you—don’t run or fight back from situations where possible. We don’t need any more immaturity, we need wisdom, and a gentle touch, and if need be, we need to move on from things that may no longer serve us.

–um, yeah, is this like some seriously misogynistic, vyctym blaming shit?

David Fraudtrelle, cum over here quick, you just got a new article showing that slimy SWAB to be the kyriarchical, oppressive misogynist ™ you’ve always tried to paint him as by taking a small piece of what he said and the putting your words behind, changing the whole arc. But this time, Davey, you don’t have to do a thing, what he wrote is truly reprehensible–no manipulation needed. Well, that low status scumbag stonerwithaboner is a bit of a prankster. Yup, he did it again, switching him and her, kind womyn for gentleman. And he didn’t even write this piece. Here’s a link to the individual who wrote this awful piece. Apparently, she is divorced. Well, if she was hitting her husband, he had every right to leave…

and, for the sake of “intellectual honesty”–I made a small update after reading this from Daran at FC.

6 thoughts on “When Boys Attack-How to let the kind womyn inside you shine in times that may make you feel like anything but…

    1. I think TGMP is worse than an openly feminist site because you know you are gonna get into a fight at the openly feminist site and you go in prepared.

      When I first heard “toxic masculinity” I was very curious because I thought it was going to be how society sets men up to fail but when I started reading up, it basically amounted to “you have a penis, that means you are born bad and must help out teh poor wimminz for every bad thing every bad man has done because-patriarchy.”

  1. David Fraudtrelle, cum over here quick, you just got a new article showing that slimy SWAB to be the kyriarchical, oppressive misogynist ™ you’ve always tried to paint him as by taking a small piece of what he said and the putting your words behind, changing the whole arc. But this time, Davey, you don’t have to do a thing, what he wrote is truly reprehensible–no manipulation needed. Well, that low status scumbag stonerwithaboner is a bit of a prankster. Yup, he did it again, switching him and her, kind womyn for gentleman. And he didn’t even write this piece. Here’s a link to the individual who wrote this awful piece. Apparently, she is divorced. Well, if she was hitting her husband, he had every right to leave…

    and, for the sake of “intellectual honesty”–I made a small update after reading this from Daran at FC.
    Don’t bother. He’s too busy going after MRAs for the recent threats against Anita Sarkiseean.

    1. I didn’t do this for Fuity, I did it for me.

      Remember that old quote, “When staring into the abyss, be careful lest the abyss stares back/when battling monsters one may become the monster.”

      I know my blog has taken on a more negative tone lately and that’s just a wake up call…

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