You can read about a womyn’s experience with “cuddle therapy.” It brings up some (nuanced) points that get glossed over when people talk about prostitution. She feels icky “paying 4 it.” Something that should be free, cuddles, hugs, physical intimacy, she is now using the free market to put a price tag on. I suppose she doesn’t feel icky paying for someone to work on her car because it requires skills she may not know and may not be interested in learning. She probably doesn’t feel icky paying for a pizza because someone has to get the ingredients and make the thing. Heck, she might not even feel icky about a so-called sports massage, y’know the ones where they actually can name muscle groups and not those weird places with the flickering lights and bars on the window. Because even then, a skilled individual is working hard to get knotts out of her muscles.
She talks about being afraid to hire a man for this service because, presumably, she doesn’t want to let someone bigger and stronger into her living space. I could cry “misandry, misandry” but since I’m not an M(h)RA weirdo like Dean Esmay, I’ll just say it’s understandable that she wouldn’t.
But here are the choice quotes that talk about “paying 4 it”–
” After I picked a time and date and received a confirmation, I then surrendered my AmEx number-for a second, it did feel a little dirty.”
“When our session is up and the $80 exchanges hands, I feel as if I’ve paid for a service that falls somewhere between therapy and a one-night stand. There’s still uncertainty and searching and the stirrings of an internal shift, maybe, but when I’m on the street, there’s overwhelmingly something else: the memory of someone holding me whom I held in return. I know human touch is important. I know that this is therapeutic. But for me, for now, it’s just not the same.”
Why is this so interesting? Because whenever prostitution is talked about, men are expected to “pay 4 it” without feeling dehumanized in the process. It’s all about the woman’s agency or how she might be coerced, or how she really doesn’t want to do it but the sweatshop paying 10 cents an hour wouldn’t hire her. Manosphere guys talk about prostitution being a simple answer between “inequalities” between the sexes. It isn’t, brah, it isn’t…